I AM A BIGAMIST by Jill Smolowe

"....reprieve for the grieving. .....great piece from Jill...nice read...ENJOY..."


Among the many popular misconceptions about grief and its trajectory, one that particularly rankles widowed people is the assumption that if you’ve found a new love relationship, you’ve “moved on” from your grief. How very tidy.

How very ridiculous. In conversations with hundreds of widows and widowers, I’ve discovered that I’m hardly unique in feeling that those of us who have buried a beloved spouse never stop grieving for our loss. As time passes and life admits new possibilities and opportunities, the intensity of the pain diminishes, becoming more tolerable and less central to the course of most days. But the love doesn’t go away. And count on it, as where there’s love, there’s pain.

How will Nigeria fare under Buhari?

By Fisayo Soyombo

Nigerian President Muhammadu Buhari [AP]

The heart-warming news is that Nigerians will have a government that will be genuinely trying to meet their needs.

The curtain has been drawn on arguably the most anticipated event of the year in Africa, and Muhammadu Buhari has officially become president of the continent's most populous country.

Looking at all the disappointments and obstacles he has endured over the decades to create all the records that his election victory represents, Buhari will be forgiven if he considers himself Nigeria's most loved man of the moment. He isn't exactly so. With elections gone and his tenure on, Buhari's honeymoon is now officially over.

Lagos and Life Expectancy

Sayo Aluko

Life expectancy (L.E), according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, is defined as the average number of years that a person or animal can expect to live, or the average life span of an individual. It is derived for each country or state by considering living and working conditions/standards therein. The World Health Organization (WHO) puts this figure at 52 years in Nigeria, while biblical (and probably also quranic) tenets procure 70+ years for every faithful. Unfortunately, for a majority of Lagosians, it seems improbable to attain these quite relatively low figures, simply because, both living and working conditions set in present day Lagos produce one major thing - unabashed and unabating STRESS, thus, an even lower life expectancy for Lagosians. (By Lagosians, I mean any man or woman resident in Lagos; I'm averse to "lagoon" lingo)